A male-centered woman AKA pick me

 A male-centered woman is someone who builds her ENTIRE self-worth, choices, & entire identity around men—often at her own expense.

Most of the time this “you are my everything behavior” is not reciprocated by the men in their lives. They often suffer from unrequited love and one-sided relationships.

Healthy men don’t want or demand a woman to build their life around them — so the DOUBLE DANGER is that not only are they building their entire life around men but more than likely this man is extremely toxic and encourages this dysfunctional behavior.

Here are the most common signs:

1. Constant issues with other women-

male centered women tend to be extremely disrespectful, emotionally abusive and even narcissistic towards OTHER WOMEN.

Why? Because these women become a mere extension of the toxic men they defend and represent. They don’t care about other women.

There only care is defending men.

2. Cancels her own plans or goals to accommodate him- and this is never ever reciprocated. Ever. THESE women will do anything and everything for their man. Again, a healthy man in a healthy relationship or marriage ENCOURAGES you to have your own personal life and identity. Toxic men encourage centering them.

3. Always puts his dreams, comfort, and desires above her own— she will even deny reality. She will keep giving more and more in a desperate attempt to get back what she gives— and she never does.

4. She encourages women to feel guilty or “selfish” when focusing on their self. She is not a girls girl. She will cause drama and discord amongst women. And be jealous of other women who are truly in healthy relationships with their partners.

5. They might misrepresent religion/faith to instill misogynistic views. “God said all women should be virgins and not have s3xx until marriage—-but it’s okay for men to sleep around OR have little to no emphasis on the virtues of men. They claim men are leaders and deserve respect but put all the burden on women.

6. She believes her thoughts ( not based on facts) are superior because she has a husband or man. She uses her marriage or relationship to be superior. Not facts. If she’s single — she will use feedback from single men. Never married.

7. She uses toxic language to belittle or degrade other women unprovoked. Since she’s insecure — she will be paranoid and don’t respect boundaries. She will attack women who were originally trying to help her.

8. She will encourage women to stay in toxic, abusive, or dysfunctional behavior. She will rationalize cheating and always defend men.

She will say not to “interfere in a relationship” when she knows there is abuse. She seems overly OBSESSED with prayer and uses God to hide her own agenda.

Tolerating Toxic Behavior

9. Excuses or rationalizes cheating, disrespect, or abuse.

Stays in relationships far past the point of peace or safety.

Believes “struggling with a man” proves loyalty or love.

10. Don’t understand that some men don’t prefer you and even tolerate you.

Even as a coach I see this. I will be coaching a client who keeps focusing on men who don’t focus on her.

Or keeps dating men who don’t want to date her. Instead of changing her objective or making changes — she finds another coach who is male centered and tells her she’s too fat, too skinny, too light, too dark, too young, too old, too smart, too dumb, don’t make enough money, make too much money, or that shes a single mom or she’s too masculine. Lmao

Male centered women will keep moving the finish line for women —because their goal is not real solutions — it’s to make men superior and women inferior.

A great example below is famous You tuber aka Pearly Things. Never married. Never engaged. Unattractive by her own standards— and men love her. Because she tells men what they want to hear